15 THINGS YOU
SHOULD GIVE UP TO BE HAPPY
Here is a list of 15 things which, if
you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.
We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and
suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves
to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today
we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will
embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP
YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us
who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at
the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and
pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the
‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask
yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be
kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really
that big?
2. GIVE UP
YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to
always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations,
events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers
you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone
to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you
feel.
“By letting it go it all gets
done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The
world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON
BLAME
Give up on your need to
blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.
Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP
YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are
hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive
self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you
– especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument
if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart
Tolle
5. GIVE UP
YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about
what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow
your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings
and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by
the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP
COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need
to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events
that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no
situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the
situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at
it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP
THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things,
events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are
all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we
all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us
all.
8. GIVE UP
YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something
that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The
moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you
take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you
will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP
YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change
will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your
life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change
– don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were
only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP
LABELS
Stop labeling those things,
people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try
opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The
highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything
about.” Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP
ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t
exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the
outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D.
Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP
YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re
fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of
the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves
and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses –
excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. GIVE UP
THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially
when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so
frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present
moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing
for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was
present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy
life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for
the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP
ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us
is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still
is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time
and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t
mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing
to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while
love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there
can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you
become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a
place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A
state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP
LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a life
that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others
think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents
think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their
teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore
their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want,
what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one
life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let
other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
