Sunday 25 December 2011

GANDHI’S TOP 10 FUNDAMENTALS FOR CHANGING THE WORLD


GANDHI’S TOP 10 FUNDAMENTALS
 FOR CHANGING THE WORLD




We could take many life lessons from that of Mahatma Gandhi.  His peaceful resolution, inspired many of us along our Spiritual Paths.  He was another GREAT Mind trying to inspire us to our own divinity, and below you will find a list of the fundamental ingredients for changing ourselves and the World in which we live.  We are entering 2012 and things are going to move progressively toward our own rebirth into divinity; we cannot do this unless we first confront the darkness from within and learn EMPATHY toward our fellow Human Beings.





1. CHANGE YOURSELF.

You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
 “As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.”
 If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change.

2. YOU ARE IN CONTROL.

 “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”
 What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you. There may be a “normal” or a common way to react to different things. But that’s mostly just all it is.
You can choose your own thoughts, reactions and emotions to pretty much everything. You don’t have to freak out, overreact of even react in a negative way. Perhaps not every time or instantly. Sometimes a knee-jerk reaction just goes off. Or an old thought habit kicks in.

3. FORGIVE AND LET GO.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
 “An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”
 Fighting evil with evil won’t help anyone. You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service. And spending your time in some negative memory won’t help you after you have learned the lessons you can learn from that experience.

4. TAKE CARE OF THIS MOMENT.

I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”

  The best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be accepting.

 Why? Well, when you are in the present moment you don’t worry about the next moment that you can’t control anyway. Resistance to action that comes from you imagining negative future consequences – or reflecting on past failures – of your actions loses its power. And so it becomes easier to both take action and to keep your focus on this moment and perform better.

 5. WITHOUT ACTION YOU AREN’T GOING ANYWHERE.

“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”
 Without taking action very little will be done. However, taking action can be hard and difficult. There can be much inner resistance. To really get where you want to go and to really understand yourself and your world you need to practice. Books can mostly just bring you knowledge. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.

6. EVERYONE IS HUMAN.

“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”
  When you start to make myths out of people – even though they may have produced extraordinary results – you run the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very different. So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter who they are.

 7. SEE THE GOOD IN PEOPLE AND HELP THEM.

“I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”
 There is pretty much always something good in people. And things that may not be so good. But you can choose what things to focus on. And if you want improvement then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive.

8. PERSIST.

First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”
Be persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.

9. BE CONGRUENT, BE AUTHENTIC, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
 “Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”
 I think that one of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself.

10. CONTINUE TO GROW AND EVOLVE.

Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”   You can pretty much always improve your skills, habits or re-evaluate your evaluations. You can gain deeper understanding of yourself and the world.

Sure, you may look inconsistent or like you don’t know what you are doing from time to time. You may have trouble to act congruently or to communicate authentically. But if you don’t then you will, as Gandhi says, drive yourself into a false position. A place where you try to uphold or cling to your old views to appear consistent while you realise within that something is wrong. It’s not a fun place to be. To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.

Life is a journey and on your path you will transform over & over again. Keep an open mind. Embrace change. Remember that possibilities & opportunities are endless. Never stop learning. Never stop growing. And never stop evolving.



Wednesday 14 December 2011

LAWS OF LIFE

 LAWS OF LIFE
 (THE LAWS OF ULTIMATE REALITY )



 We all know that Murphy’s Law is a fact of life. I came across the following sub-laws and found them to be more true and very funny. Tell me which of these laws you have come across in your life

Law of Gravity


Any tool when dropped will roll to the least accessible corner
Law of Probability


The probability of being watched is directly proportional to the stupidity of your act.
Law of Random Numbers


If you dial a wrong number, you never get a busy signal and someone always answers.
Law of the Alibi


If you tell the boss you were late for work because you had a flat tire, the very next morning you will have a flat tire.
Variation Law

If you change traffic lanes, the one you were in will always move faster than the one you are in now (works every time).

Law of the Bath


When the body is fully immersed in water, the telephone rings.
Law of Close Encounters


 The probability of meeting someone you know increases dramatically when you are with someone you don't want to be seen with.

Law of the Result


When you try to prove to someone that a machine
 won't work, it will.

Law of Biomechanics

The severity of the itch is inversely proportional to the reach.
Law of the Theatre


At any event, the people whose seats are furthest

from the aisle arrive last.

The Starbucks Law

As soon as you sit down to a cup of hot coffee, your

boss  will ask you to do something which will last until

 coffee is cold.

Murphy's Law of Lockers


If there are only two people in a locker room, they will have adjacent lockers.

Law of Physical Surfaces


 The chances of an open-faced jam sandwich landing face down on a floor covering are directly correlated to the newness and cost of the carpet/rug.

Brown's Law of Physical Appearance


If the shoe fits, it's ugly.

Wilson 's Law of Commercial Marketing Strategy


 As soon as you find a product that you really like, they will stop making it.

Doctors' Law


If you don't feel well, make an appointment to go to the doctor, by the time you get there you'll feel better. Don't make an appointment and you'll stay sick.
Law of Logical Argument


 Anything is possible if you don't know what you are talking about.



Law of Mechanical Repair


After your hands become coated with grease, your
 nose will begin to itch and you'll have to pee..
Law of Queue 

If you change queues, the one you have left will start to move faster than the one you are in now.







Thursday 1 December 2011

BENEFITS OF BEING POLITE

                         



  BENEFITS OF BEING POLITE

"One of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness."
                                                   -Josh Billings


We all believe in the philosophy that the essence of life is talking. Communicating with others is as necessary as food. If we dont, we tend to fall ill. Today people are rarely talking.
 
The art of conversation has almost died down. People just usually sit and chat in their office breaks about things that are not even worth thinking about. Lets face it; we all are going towards doom where each one of us is talking to pass/kill time. The art of using communication is no more existing. People are concerned about others influence in their lives and not about their influence in others life.
 
It is an unbelievable thing that an effective communication through polite words can have wonderful impact on you and others lives as well. You can win the hearts of many people, climb the corporate ladder, have promotions but not have wonderful relationship with people around you.
 
The path to a successful life comes thorough the stairs of politeness. An act of politeness can do wonders that no monetary thing can do. Let us go deep in the art of efficient speaking by these methods.



 TALKING ABOUT IDEAS AND NOT PEOPLE

It is truly said, great minds talk about ideas and small minds talk about people. Politeness is an attitude of life. Talking about ideas heightens your politeness towards innovations and stimulates your mind too. This is effective for the speaker and the listener both. To start talking about people you can breathe out all negative energies about anyone: latest crush, which dress she wears, which perfume she uses, her bad attitude. The idea is that everything you talk about people usually comes negative. This develops a feeling of self love and comparison at all means. You do not value your life as much as you do to others.

USING INTELLECT INSTEAD OF TONGUES
 
Usually people chatter on at length not worrying about the impact it would have on others. Since people are so occupied in themselves they woulrather talk about themselves only. This instigates them to speak rubbish endlessly. Have you ever thought how much of an impact we can have on others by our words? By trying to use our brains before speaking, we will save others sentiments and preserve a healthy relationship between our near ones.


AVOIDING GOSSIP
 
The one who usually starts a gossip or backbiting about someone does not know that he is the one to have the last laugh. People who start commenting and spreading rumors about others usually end up in a muck of politics and bickering about themselves from the other end. Such people should be avoided at arm's length. Even listening to gossip is as harmful since the listener had the power to listen to negative communication. This unhealthy gossiping could have been stopped if the listener would have ignored the speaker.

EXCHANGE OF COMPLIMENTS


We should not limit our compliment intake be restricted to our close relatives. People like our helpers such as servants, cleaners, house maids are those on whom we can count on. Speaking politely to them will ensure that your day is made. They are the ones who offer your services to make your life comfortable. So we should make endeavors to enrich their lives by complimenting and praising them.



LOOK FOR POSITIVE THINGS IN NEGATIVE PEOPLE


We all have negative and positive sides. Nobody on this earth has a squeaky clean nature. We all have flaws, however some people are observed negatively by their rude behavior and we become very judgmental about them putting them in the negative category. We should understand that people who are rude have their own weaknesses. They do not choose to be like that. Frustrations at work or domestic front make them act in this behavior. Such people should be offered more help than others comparatively. Talking politely with them will make a difference in their lives and yours too.


FEEL POSITIVE ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME


Quite often we do not realize that we subconsciously become negative. Pent up emotions and unfulfilled desires make us behave rudely towards others and emit negative radiations from the body. Thus we tend to overreact and become rude and harsh to others in some or the other way. This might demolish the social circle that we have. So politeness in the hearts at all means will result in polite attitude.
 
Whatever is rested in your heart is bound to come out in the open some or the other day. Make sure you have a prosperous life with a polite attitude and selfless love. This will make you immortal in the hearts of millions as people are going to remember for your polite words and not by your status.
 
A photographer once clicked a photograph of ex-president of India, Dr. Kalam with a shawl placed on his shoulder. After the photo shoot was over, the photographer rudely took off the shawl and walked off. The President smiled. After being asked about his composed behaviouir, he politely answered that maybe the photographer needed the shawl more than he did, and continued his work.
 
People with big positions come and go but it is only their humble nature that draws millions of people towards them

Their polite words filled to the brim with modesty and love melt the hearts of even the rudest amongst the crowd. By talking politely to all we can make an impact on others lives.



Politeness is the art of choosing among your thoughts."
-Madame de Stael